Everyone has the moment in their life when they wonder what in the hell I am doing. Where did I go wrong? How did I end up on this path? How can I make things better? Most times we ask ourselves this question, yet we continue on, the daily routine, the same choices, the same social circles. You get through, you survive, another day goes by, another month, another year.

I too have dropped to my knees and asked the good lord why? What do you want from me? Show me the way? I have pleaded my case to the lottery gods, why can it not be me that matches the winning numbers?  How many times have you laid your head down and cried lonely tears over a marriage you know is broken, yet can not find the strength to move on? Financial struggles you have no idea how to fix. We have all reached out to someone yet been shunned, belittled, brokenhearted. Sometimes we look at our children and wonder where we went wrong. What could we have done better? Or sometimes we look at our children and wonder how did they turn out so great, when I could have given more, done more, been so much of a better person.

In life, we are constantly disappointed, we fail, we hurt others and we hurt ourselves. When we look at others who seem to have it all, we wonder why them? Truth be known each and every person has these struggles. The woman with the perfect body you admire, looks in the mirror every day and sees her flaws. That couple you see together and only wish your relationship could be like theirs, well you would never know she feels so lonely at times she cries when no one is looking. She wonders where she is going to pull that one more once of energy to care for her family, take care of everyone’s needs, keep up her home and be the perfect wife, the perfect mom. She knows she has lost herself in the process but pushes on. She is woman. And that husband, well he feels his wife pulling away but doesn’t know how to reach out, doesn’t know how to say he is scared, that he too is overwhelmed, and needs comfort and encouragement. He remains silent, cause he is a man and he has been taught he is the caretaker, he needs to figure it all out on his own. He is a man. The single mom who will sacrifice all for her children. Every ounce of her questioning each choice she makes. Was I selfish, can I be it all for my children? Did I show my children the right way when I decided to not stay in that broken marriage? Could I have tried harder? The single fathers, who no one sees crying tears of sorrow cause he misses being a part of his kids everyday life and feels forgotten. He wonders could he have been a better man, a better husband, a better father. The parents, who children are grown, have moved on and started their own lives. Just hoping for a phone call, a hello, a simple I love you. Knowing their adult children are busy but longing to be a part of the lives of the children they lived and breathed for, in which to them seemed not so long ago. 

Truth be told there is no perfect person. No perfect life. When we look at others who seem to have it all, we are only looking at the surface. Each and every person has a struggle. Some simply hide it better than others.

So how can we be a better person? We can all stop judging others from the surface. We can all love one another more. We can stop asking friends and loved ones simply “How are you?” and truly ask, “Please, tell me really How Are You?” We can stop judging ourselves so harshly, stop criticizing ourselves, stop letting your mind be over run with all the would haves, should haves, and could haves. Move forward, never backward. Make each day is a new better day. Stop letting fear of failure, fear of rejection hold you back. Realize this path you are on is your path. The scenery may not be what you expected, the bumps at times may be hell and the road may seem to be forever winding but the journey is what we are here for. You may never win the lottery, you may never find that perfect balance in life. Your family, your children, your friends will never be in perfect harmony. But if you truly look around and open yourself up, we can all make this journey a little easier for everyone by just being a better person to one another and especially to yourself.


  1. You’re right, it’s time for us to realize that nothing should ever stop us from becoming better. The first month of 2017 is a good way to start with punching through brick walls.

  2. We judge too much, we judge everything that we see and that’s what’s filling the world with hate right now. It would be awesome to just spread the kindness and do something good for others.

  3. Life has a funny way of showing you what really matters in unexpected moments. You can’t spend your life worrying about things.Always search for answers to things, it’s there.

    A lot of the time all we really need is to sit down with others (and sometimes even ourselves) and discuss what we want out of our relationships/friendships with others. I think when you put your thoughts out there, you get a sense of ease. Isn’t that how therapy works?

    Thanks for such a wonderful post. You made me think of the relationships in my life.

  4. This is truly inspiring and such an eye opener too. We can never be perfect but we can do what we can to make this lifetime a good one by being kind to others. We all have different struggles and we shouldn’t allow ourselves to judge other people.

  5. It’s so true that it’s easy to think everyone else’s like if perfect when we only see it from the outside– especially now with social media everyone is presenting their idealized self to the world. Thanks for the reminder that there is always more going on behind the scenes.

  6. Man did I need to read this. I was never really a life planner.but lately I’ve been catching myself doing it. Life is unpredictable and we choose how to react in situations.

  7. I really enjoyed this post. You never know what battle others are fighting. That is something that is wrong with our society is that all our social media sites show are the good things happening in our lives; that is not how it always is. In a way, launching my blog has helped other see that I think. Thank you so much for sharing!


  8. I can totally relate to this post. I was trying so hard to be the perfect mom and wife. The house was spotless, dinner always cooked, clothes ironed, and just lost myself. I was always tired staying up till 2am cleaning even though my son wakes every few hours still. It became exhausting till I stopped and made the decision I want to be happy too.

  9. Well, everything in life its not perfect, and the idea is to go ahead with the life and put things on God´s Hands. Thank you for sharing this amazing post!

  10. Love this post 😍 So true that we all will fail at things the best outlook to have is to fail forward. Like you said let’s keep being the best version of ourselves every day and help others !

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